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Optiminds Parent Support Group Meeting, May 19, Focuses on “Choice Theory”

April 27, 2011

Thursday, May 19 from 6:30-8:30 p.m. is the next Optiminds Parent Support Group Meeting. The focus of the meeting is “Choice Theory,” which explains that all human behavior is internally rather than externally motivated. The goal is to teach parents how to motivate themselves and their children in positive rewarding ways.

Choice Theory was developed by Dr. William Glasser—lecturer, author, board-certified psychiatrist, and developer of a counseling method called reality therapy, which has since been renamed Choice Theory. In a nutshell, Choice Theory states the following:

  • all we do is behave
  • almost all behavior is chosen
  • we are driven by our genes to satisfy five basic needs: survival, love and belonging, power, freedom and fun

Children’s behaviors are driven by the same set of basic human needs that drive adult behaviors. As Glasser believes, these include the need for survival, safety, love and belonging, freedom, power, and fun.  And most of the time, when children “misbehave,” it is because they have limited experience, knowledge or skills to satisfy their needs in ways that adults deem acceptable or socially appropriate.

Perhaps the quickest way to enhance parent-child relationship is for us to avoid what Glasser terms as the “seven deadly habits”—criticizing, blaming, complaining, nagging, threatening, punishing and rewarding to control.  All these actions stem from the inherent tendency to control our children, and almost always make them feel unloved and disconnected, thereby destroying our relationships with them. Glasser suggests that we replace these destructive habits with the “seven connecting habits”—caring, trusting, listening, supporting, negotiating, befriending and encouraging.

Explore the Choice Theory with us on May 19 at the Optiminds office at 29688 Telegraph Rd. in Southfield. To RSVP for the meeting, please call us at (248) 496-0150. For more information on Dr. Glasser and his work, visit

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